The church I grew up in was a variant of the Church of Christ, Independent, I think. I can’t find specifics on their website, so I’m not sure.
But one of the things I grew up believing was what I think they call Believer’s Baptism, or credobaptism. This essentially means there is some “grace period” until a child reaches the age of accountability (between 8 & 12). At that time, the child is mature enough to determine whether he or she accepts Jesus, and this is the point where he or she fully becomes a Christian.
The church I go to now is Calvinist, and if I understand correctly, believes people are born sinners, and are extended grace by God in an irresistable way. It appears the little ones are not saved and there is no “grace period”. Some solve this dilemma by baptising infants. Some solve it by looking for signs of “regeneration” in their children, as proof that God has chosen them. Some evangelize heavily to their children. Some, I have read, have the minister dedicate their children to God when they are born, and consider them as part of the covenant. Not sure if they want them to reaffirm anything later. There are probably more options…I don’t know.
It’s very confusing and disheartening to me. I grew up one way, understood at least that part and was baptised as a believer. I assumed my children would be taken care of until they were the age of reason. Am I wrong? Even if I were wrong, what would I do now? They’re 6 & 9. A little late for infant baptism. Although they are both in or near the age of reason, they are both new to the church (as I have been away for most of their life), and they don’t know enough about Christianity to make an informed decision.
I wish there was a neat wrap-up of this blog post, but no clarity as yet :/